The Residents of Kabuga village, Mugaza parish, Chahi Sub County have been left dumbstruck after one of their own, Feresta Ngendahimana, aged 50 has been expelled from the village over allegations of adultery with a UPDF solider.
Ngendahimana Feresta got married to Phillip Ngendahimana in 1995. Feresta was in a refugee from Rwanda before being snatched from the refugee camp in Nyakabande by his husband, Ngendahimana and wedded 10 years back.
Bugahe Women’s group chairperson Annosiata Mukangoga said Feresta’s case is one among very many cases in the village. She attributes the rise to more women openly visiting bars till late in the night with little or no care for their husbands or children.
She explained that Feresta Ngendahimana had to be expelled from the Women’s group and the village because she has been caught in martial affairs before and to make it worse, her own children always discover her in the act with unknown men.
“There is no way we were going to forgive her because she has disgraced her husband, her children and the entire village”, Mukangoga explained
Mukangoga said that the village is considering deploying spies among revelers in the bar to keep track of wives who are engaging in adulterous behavior.
Sarafina Nyiramana, an in-law told vomuhabura.com that Feresta had lost respect for her husband and often spoke negatively about him.
According Nyiramana, Feresta seemed frustrated and would spend time in the bar waiting for anyone who could buy her alcohol.
“If you are unhappy in your marriage, find ways to seek for help without damaging the reputation of your husband and hurting your children,” Nyiramana advised.
Tamu Bibabanje a resident of Kabuga village said that it is unfortunate that wedded couples in church can also be involved in adultery.
“She must go, we do not want such women in our village,” Bibabanje said
Kabuga LC I chairperson Rudahunga Augustine said soldiers who come into the village bars to drink have become the major contributors of the problem because they have money and they do not require long term relationships with these women.
Rudahunga noted that husbands have decided to keep a blind eye towards the ongoing trend because most times they are drinking themselves silly in other bars therefore the real group being negatively affected are the children at home.
“The family structure has completely broken down because everyone is doing whatever they want and no one cares about the consequences, something needs to be done,” Rudahunga said.